Accessing your best state is a skill you can learn. Last time, a short exercise showed how much control you genuinely have over your emotional state, simply by fully entering an experience rather than observing it from a distance. This instalment goes further into the body-mind connection that the MythoSelf Process treats as central, not incidental, to lasting change.

Mapping Your Best State

Start by asking, “How am I when I’m at my best?” Notice what that feels like physically. What sensations show up? What adjustments do you make to your posture without necessarily meaning to? What single word or phrase best captures this way of being, for you specifically?

Give the state a name. A word or short phrase works as a handle you can use later, when you need it quickly.

Why the Body Comes First

Notice that the exercise begins with the body. Sensation, posture and breath are quicker to notice than thoughts, and they change faster. When you can shift how you hold yourself, your thinking often follows.

This is a central idea in the process: lasting change is felt before it is explained. Mapping your best state physically gives you a reliable way back to it, whatever you happen to be thinking.

Practising Deliberate Access

Take it further. Imagine your future happiness, and that of the people you love, depends on being able to reliably recreate this state on demand. Study in real detail exactly how you access it.

For some people that is a specific physical sequence: a breath, a shift of the shoulders, a particular angle of the head. For others it is more holistic, a warmth that begins in the body and radiates outward. Whatever form it takes, practise accessing it deliberately and repeatedly until it is reliably available rather than something that only shows up by accident.

Tips for Accessing Your Best State on Purpose

Practise at a quiet time first. Sit comfortably, ask the question, and let your body answer before your mind does. Write a short description of what the state feels like in each part of your body, and return to it when you practise.

Test it: think of a mildly irritating situation, use your access sequence, and notice how much the situation changes. Repeat daily. A few minutes is enough to make it reliable.

For a wider view of how emotional states are regulated, see this overview of emotional self-regulation.

3 Simple Tips for Accessing Your Best State

Make it a skill.

  1. Map it physically: posture, breath and the direction of your gaze.
  2. Give it a word or phrase you can use as a handle.
  3. Practise daily, even for a few minutes, until it is reliable.

By now you should have a word or phrase, a physical sequence and a few reasons to trust that accessing your best state is possible on demand. Keep practising until it is reliable. In the next part we take it out of the exercise and into the ordinary hours of your day, where it matters most.

If the sequence feels forced at first, simplify it. One breath, one shift of posture and your chosen word is enough. The aim is a quick, reliable route back to how you are at your best, and simple sequences tend to survive stress far better than elaborate ones.

A final thought on accessing your best state: it rewards small, repeated practice far more than one big effort. Whatever your situation, keep accessing your best state in view this week and notice what changes. If accessing your best state matters to you, write down one action you will take today.

Where This Goes Next

The next stage connects this state to ordinary daily life: not as a peak experience reserved for special moments, but as close to your default way of operating. Revisit Part 2, continue to Part 4, or book a free consultation to work through this directly with Charles.